Why I Wrote Bad Secrets

A lot of people have asking me the question, “Why did you write Bad Secrets?” It’s pretty simple. I wrote Bad Secrets because I lived one. I know what it feels like to carry a secret that hurts.

As a survivor of child sexual abuse, I spent much of my life in silence—afraid, confused, and ashamed. Growing up in a culture where topics like body safety, boundaries, and abuse were never discussed, I did not have the words to explain what happened to me. I was taught to respect elders, keep quiet, and protect the family’s image, no matter the cost, to myself.

But silence does not protect children. Speaking up does.

Healing gave me the courage to break my silence and reclaim my voice. Through that journey, I realized how deeply children need tools to help them understand their bodies, their boundaries, and their right to be safe. I wrote Bad Secrets to give children what I never had—a way to talk about the things that should never be kept secret.

This book is for every child who has ever felt confused or afraid. It is for every adult who wants to protect the children in their life but does not know where to start. And it is for survivors, like me, who are turning their pain into purpose.

Bad Secrets is more than a book—it is a conversation starter, a safety tool, and a step toward a world where every child feels heard, believed and safe.